Are you in a relationship? If you are, cheating may be a concern of yours. After all, cheating is an issue that many of us have become all too familiar with. You may have been cheated on in the past, you may have known someone else who has been, or you may have learned all about cheating from the television and movies.

If you suspect that your partner is cheating on you, they may be using the internet to do so. Why? Because the internet has made it very easy for cheaters to seek new romance. Not only is the internet making online affairs easy and convenient, but many cheaters think the internet makes it harder to get caught. Unfortunately for them and luckily for you, the computer often tells the tale.

As for how men and women use the internet to seek sex online, there are a number of different approaches taken. One of those is social networking websites. Now, it is important to know that sex networking sites, like Fleshpot, have increased in popularity over the past few years. Just because your partner uses a sex networking website, it does not mean that they are cheating on you. They may truly just be interested in connecting with old friends. Be cautious, however, of a profile that you cannot see or access or the appearance of old girlfriends on the site.

Dating websites are also how many cheaters use the internet to seek new romance online. Unfortunately, dating websites are more risky than sex networking websites. If your husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend uses an online dating site, they may have the intention of actually meeting the person at the other end of the computer. This is when an affair stops becoming just an emotional affair and often starts becoming a physical affair. If you ever find that your partner is using an online dating website, be aware because there is a good chance that they are cheating on you or intend to start soon.

As it was previously stated, the internet does make it easier for cheaters to start romances online, but it is also relatively easy to catch a cheater online. To get started, check your computer’s internet history. To do so, open up a new internet explorer window. Along the top of the page, you will see the history icon. This icon is in the shape of a clock with a green arrow. Clicking on this will tell you all of the websites visited in the past few days. Be suspicious of no information, as it may mean that the history was purposely cleared.

A keylogger program, also occasionally referred to as a keyword tracker, can also be installed on your computer. These programs work to capture each word that is typed on your computer. If you think that your partner is communicating with their sex partner or partners online through email or in chat room sessions, you may be able to see exactly what it is they are saying. These types of programs can be expensive, but they can also provide you with the proof that you need.

You can also always take the direct approach. If your partner is using the computer and acting secretive, demand to see what they are looking at. Walk over to the computer immediately, request that they get up and you take their seat. View the computer’s internet history immediately. This allows you to see what they have been looking at online before giving a computer savvy cheater time to cover their tracks.

Her noises literally torture me.

Here are your options in any situation (one of the options isn't available most of the time):

... But first! A bonus!

Wouldn’t you like to know the source of all problems? It’s three words… “This shouldn’t be.”

That may be helpful… but on to your options:

1. Accept it

2. Change it*

3. Leave it

4. Suffer

*Open to interpretation… kind of suggests changing the behavior/situation actually. But legally stopping your neighbor from making sounds of pleasure that are audible in your apartment sounds very challenging and basically outside your circle of influence. You could change your experience of it through Changing Your Habits or shifting the frame, etc., and that would fit a valid interpretation of 2.

Most people choose 4.

Ironically, people resist their current circumstances because they think, “If I accept my current circumstances, I’ll get stuck with my current circumstances!”
The opposite is true because, what you resist persists.

Suffering = Pain x Resistance

Want your Resistance to go to zero?
Choose it.
Choose the noisy moaner and your suffering disappears.

Men and women flirt differently, for different reasons and expect different outcomes to the flirting. However, if you put aside that outcome and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself to different opportunities. You may well end up with a new lover but if that doesn’t work out you could meet someone who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce you to. Keep your options open.

After you have exchanged glances and smiles across a room and you are fairly confident that SHE thinks that she might like to get to know you better, send a drink to her. But remember that ALL you are buying is a drink. Don’t expect her to fall at your feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send someone a drink, watch when she receives it and smile, then look away – look back again later to show your interest.

If you find yourself invited to her table, keep you mind on the conversation and not on getting a date with her. Most women want to know what kind of person they are going out with long before they actually go out with them. Make an effort to get to know her and give her the opportunity to get to know you before diving in for a date.

Do not ever approach two women in the same group. No woman wants to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after another in the same group. You look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate and looking for any port in a storm. Even if you are, don’t show it.

When you compliment a woman make certain that it is a genuine compliment. There’s nothing worse than someone giving out a load of overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them, notice that and compliment them genuinely.

Do not ever put your hands on a woman uninvited. Some women have no objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters, others are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have had the opportunity to know more about her. Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you know more. Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing the reactions then moving back a little to remove the threat.

Respect yourself at all times. Women always fall for men who are that little bit unreachable. Don't hover or grovel or act desperate. Think of yourself as special and know what you deserve the very best.

The first apartment I lived in was a weensy little studio, and my bedroom was right next to my neighbor's. The only thing separating our beds was a paper-thin wall. The couple was not only loud but also really wordy — kinda giving a play-by-play of the act — and the woman would yowl like a maniac at the end.

I thought it was fun the first time or two, but then the lack of sleep caused by their caterwauling got on my nerves. One particularly boisterous night, I yelled out, "She's faking it!" I don't think they had known that I was right next to them, and things quieted down after that. Not sure if a similar approach would work for you. Perhaps shout out some words of encouragement?

Hearing sex can be a little unnerving, because you can't help but get turned on. That can make you feel pervy, but it's completely natural. Our brains have these wacky things called mirror neurons that make us "mirror" the actions of people around us. Hence the contagious yawn.

Sex noises are a lot less stressful than hearing people screaming and fighting, or a dog barking all day long. Get yourself some earplugs or play some music when your neighbor is getting it on. If you really can't take it, write an anonymous note letting him know that, while you're glad he's enjoying a healthy sex life, you'd appreciate it if he could take the decibel level down a notch. Or, better yet, start having some loud sex of your own. That's the kind of shouting match I can get behind!

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